After the Storm: Witness the Pain-Body. Return to Now.
- Lidija Poth
- Nov 10, 2025
- 3 min read
Bobbie and the Silence
This morning, Bobbie didn’t chase.
He just sat.
Head on my knee.
Two voices spoke:
Singer: “You are not the thoughts. You are the one aware of them.”
Tolle: “The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation, but your thoughts about it.”
I asked:
Who is watching this pain — right now?
The Aftermath
You leave a long, toxic marriage.
You think: “I’m free.”
Then the floor drops.
Your children — strangers wearing your eyes.
Your self — a person you no longer recognize.
Your friends — ghosts who chose sides.
Your home — a house that remembers his voice.
His family — a door that closed the day you walked out.
He spent years erasing you.
You spent years finding the exit.
You made it.
But the war didn’t end.
It just moved inside — into the pain-body.
Tolle:
“The pain-body is a semi-autonomous energy-form that lives within you. It feeds on drama, separation, and unconsciousness.”
Singer:
“The pain is not the problem. Your relationship to the pain is the problem.”
The Cruel Twist
You finally open —
a crack of light, a whisper of maybe —
and your, almost-adult child is dropped at your door.
No warning.
No choice.
The dream you carried in silence —
“Let him live with me. Let me be his home.” —
becomes reality on someone else’s terms.
Stories twisted.
Agreements broken.
No dialogue.
Just you and your child — thrown under the same bus.
It feels like punishment.
It is punishment.
And you had no say.
Singer:
“Life is giving you exactly what you need to wake up.”
Tolle:
“Accept this moment as it is. Then act.”
This is the moment.
Witness it. Be with it.
How Do You Lay This Down?
You don’t.
You let it pass through —
in the Now.
1. Witness the pain-body.
Feel the burn in your chest.
The knot in your throat.
Don’t identify.
Singer: “Let it rise. Let it peak. Let it leave.”
Tolle: “Observe the pain-body without judgment. It cannot survive in the light of your awareness.”
2. Hold the two children — in presence.
The inner child screaming: “I was erased!”
The real child in front of you: “I don’t know where I belong.”
You are the space they’re in. Not the storm.
Tolle: “The child in you needs your conscious presence, not your reaction.”
3. Re-meet yourself — in the Now.
One breath.
One truth:
“I am the awareness behind this pain.”
Singer: “The story changes. You do not.”
Tolle: “Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have.”
4. Let the past dissolve.
Not erased.
Dissolved.
Singer: “The psyche is a river. Stop damming it.”
Tolle: “The past has no power over the present moment.”
How Does This Make You Stronger?
Because you stopped feeding the pain-body.
- You know gaslighting — you watch it rise and fall.
- You know boundaries — you set them from stillness, not reaction.
- You know your essence — the one that never left.
A client said:
“I used to fight the pain. Now I watch it dissolve.
And I’m still here.”
That’s not strength.
That’s awakening.
Tolle:
“The greatest catalyst for change in a relationship is complete acceptance of your partner — and yourself — as they are.”
Singer:
“The day you stop protecting your psyche is the day you become fearless.”
How Do You Become Happy Again?
Not by waiting for the storm to end.
But by becoming the Now.
- One small joy a day.
Bobbie’s breath.
The warmth of tea.
The silence between thoughts.
- One boundary a week.
From presence: “This is not mine to carry.”
- One truth to your child.
“I see you. I’m here. We don’t need to fix this — just be.”
Happiness isn’t the absence of pain.
It’s the presence —
quiet,
steady,
untouched.
Singer:
“Joy is your natural state when you stop disturbing yourself.”
Tolle:
“Joy does not come from what you get. It comes from who you are when you stop wanting.”
Your Turn
You’re not starting over.
You’re returning to Now —
to the witness.
What pain-body will you witness today?
What story will you let dissolve?
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You’re not the storm.
You’re the presence watching it pass.
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