Breaking Free from Expectations: Embracing a New You
- Lidija Poth
- 6 days ago
- 2 min read
A Moment of Reflection
As I walked with my dog this morning, the crisp October air prompted a question: What do we expect from each other, and why? It’s Sunday, October 19, 2025, and this thought lingers as I reflect on our daily assumptions and self-criticism.
The Weight of Expectations
How often do we comfort others unasked, assuming it’s needed? I’ve done this—offering advice only to wonder if I said the wrong thing, blaming myself. In meetings, job interviews, or new tasks, do we enter thinking, “Will this go well?” Why not, “This will be a great conversation, and I’m the right fit”? This self-criticism puzzles me. Where does it stem from—caregivers, school, friends, partners, or society? Does it serve us? Often, it doesn’t, yet we cling to it, a habit hard to break.
A client once shared her anxiety before presentations, assuming failure. I’ve felt this too—doubting my worth after a misstep. Brené Brown, in The Gifts of Imperfection, writes, “Perfectionism is a self-destructive belief that our worth is contingent on our performance.” This resonates—our expectations tie us to an old, critical self.
The Power of a New Self
Imagine embracing these flaws, connecting them to an old version of yourself, not the new. That new you is strong, resilient, brimming with self-love, knowing you’re the right person for any role. Michael Singer, in The Untethered Soul, teaches us to let go of negative inner voices. He suggests, “The voice in your head is not who you are—it’s just a voice.” I’ve practiced this—silencing self-doubt during a challenging project, focusing on my strengths instead.
This new self doesn’t heed those inner critics. A client transformed by ignoring her “not good enough” narrative, stepping into confidence. Singer’s wisdom, paired with Brown’s call to imperfection, offers a path to release outdated expectations.
Releasing the Past, Embracing the Future
Why do we hold onto self-criticism? Perhaps it’s familiarity, a shield from vulnerability. But it doesn’t serve growth. I’ve learned to reframe my narrative—seeing past mistakes as lessons, not failures. Brown adds, “Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity, and change.” By letting go, we open to a resilient self.
What’s your first step? Acknowledging these voices, then choosing to rewrite them? This shift can transform how we interact, free from assumptions and self-judgment.
A Call to Reflect and Grow
This journey is yours to shape. What expectations weigh you down? How can you embrace your new, resilient self? Share your thoughts below or book a FREE Discovery Session | MyLifeCoachingHub to explore. Follow @mylifecoachinghub for more. Let’s break free together!
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